“It is our attitude toward life which will determine life’s attitude towards us”.
– Earl Nightingale
Attitude is a simple word with such a deterministic meaning. Attitude reflects a sum of a person’s beliefs, motives and behavior towards certain circumstances in life. But why is attitude so important? Being it a predisposition of the way we feel and act towards things, attitude involves forces which can define our whole life. The magic in all of it is the element of choice that we as human beings have. According to it we can choose where to set our focus, how to feel and how to behave and consequently reach the destinations we wish for. Understanding this we can change our lives in the way we want them to be.
The power of attitude
In order to set the rightful attitude, we firstly need to define where we want to go. If we clearly see our goal, we will understand who we need to be to arrive there. So, we decide to be the persons we want to be by viewing our goals. When viewing them, we know which the right attitude is to adopt. Next, the process itself will make us the persons we want to be at the end of our destination. What is in our hands is the vision and then the decision on how to act.
According to Earl Nightingale, “human beings can order their lives by ordering their attitudes of mind”. He explains “wherever you find a person doing an outstanding job and getting outstanding results you will find a person with the right kind of attitude.
These people take the attitude towards themselves that they can accomplish what they’ve set out to accomplish, that there is no good reason on earth why they can’t be competent and successful”.
Seeing it from a different perspective, the adoption of a certain attitude leads to a specific way of living. What we need to comprehend is that in the end all is matter of choice. We are in charge and in control of our life in every moment. Even on the occasion of unexpected events, we have the ability to react on them and reshape them in the way we want it to be. That is our power.
Therefore, if we want to change our lives, we must change our attitude first. Our environment is more of a mirror of our mental attitude. Hence, if we do not like our environment, we must change the way we think and perceive things.
How to form an attitude that will take you anywhere you want?
The easiest and most effective way of forming a good attitude is to begin to act as though you have a good positive attitude toward life, i.e. walk, act, look & feel as you are already in the group of people you want to be. This may sound simple, but in practice it presupposes a lot of effort, since it involves every aspect of life. You need to be in control of every situation, in every transaction with friends, family, colleagues or strangers; to treat everyone with the attitude which represents the results you want to achieve. For example, let us say that your goal is to be the most successful person in a certain field. Then if you start acting as you are already in possession of that success, your life will change immediately in your interactions with other people, the way you talk and the way your respond to circumstances. You will start treating people with more respect and love. Then, they in return are going to treat with more admiration and respect – because for people what is more important is the feeling that they are important. The difference will be noticed directly from your closest people.
By behaving in that way, you will cultivate the virtues which make up the person you want to be, even if you are far from being that type of person in first place. As Nightingale states, actions trigger feelings, just as feelings trigger actions. So, fake it until you make it; until it becomes your habit!
Taking into account that we get to choose who we are going to become and what kind of life we are going to have, it is apparent that we become what we think about most of the time. If we “plant” in our head ideas of success and wellness, we are going to get there sooner or later, as though it was a universal law. Apparently, in 5 years or less you can get on the top of the work you are now doing. See it, stay hungry, work for it and in short time it is going to manifest. The science of Quantum Physics claims that everything in the universe operates according to energy flows. Thus, wherever we concentrate our energy and thought that is where we are going to head and that is what we are going to encounter in life. After all, as Walter Scott said,“success or failure in any undertaking is caused more by mental attitude even than by mental capacities”.